Monday, July 14, 2008

Monday Morning Musing....


Our words have power. The way we phrase things can make a big difference in our outcomes. Einstein said, "the formulation of the question is far more important than the answer". Recently, I have noticed on several occasions people using their words in ways that will sabotage their attempts at reaching a particular goal. For instance, with weight management. We refer to weight loss, so often. Ads read, "Lose weight now!" or we may say, "I need to lose 5 pounds."

Think about loss in your life. Loss of a job, a loved one or even simply losing your glasses. When you lose something, you mourn that loss. Next, you look to replace it. It is human nature to want to regain. So, when we lose weight, at some level, we often mourn that loss. We eat to fill that void and the weight returns. In fact, often we double the weight, after all, just like losing glasses, we don't want to go through that again, (I have several pairs of reading glasses kept in every possible location, to avoid being without.) Maybe this will explain the yo-yo dieting that so many people go through.

Perhaps what we want to do is to begin looking at our weight as part of our lifestyle. If we can move easier and feel better, how much better would that be? Take a moment and imagine yourself healthy, lean and strong. What would that look like for you? How would you feel? Can you imagine moving freely, with increased energy? Begin to shed excess and release the weight.

According to Jung, what we resist will persist. So, if we have not first embraced our excess weight, how can we release it? It is important to face our shadows in order to release them. If you take a moment and embrace your body and think about how it got into the condition it is in you may find it easier to shed extra pounds of fat. Think of the times you ate to console yourself, rather than examine the emotions you were feeling. Or did you fill your spare time with eating, rather than other life experiences?

Take a moment of quiet to examine where you are in this moment. Where do you want to be? What might have contributed to how you arrived where you are and what is a possible path to getting to where you desire to be? Embrace the lessons you have learned on this journey and begin to create positive thoughts about yourself that coordinate with those goals. Give your mind and your body the opportunity to work together towards living fully.

Imagine life the way you desire, embrace those lessons, release those old negative beliefs and become your authentic self today!

7 comments:

Cindy said...

Great post, Debbie....I am using the last 2 paragraphs for reflection today....on life lessons.

Philolog said...

I agree with you 100%!

My presentation at the NGH convention is about the Power of Words and is called Verbal Impact. I am adding some special instructions about Self-talk to it this year. So many people criticize themselves and sabotage themselves with negative self-talk, like I'm so clumsy, or I can't resist a piece of chocolate cake!

Rephrase those statements and you get:
I am so graceful, and
I always make healthy choices!

Great post! See you soon!

Debbie said...

Thanks Cindy,

I know you reflect, that is how you are going through so much amazing growth!

Philo,

How about the affirmation, "I surround myself with great people now!"

Let's begin that by getting together for a cup of coffee or tea soon.

Grandy said...

Great post!! I am authenticating myself as we speak. :)

Jacqueline said...

We must learn to EMBRACE ourselves more! You definitely hit the nail on the head regarding the weight loss issue.

Didi said...

I love your this post of yours! Thank you for sharing it.

Jena Isle said...

My weight decreased in a period of 3 months, and just like you said, I had first to "embrace" (acknowledge) that I am fat and that I needed to lose weight, before I was able to do so successfully.

Thanks for a useful post.