Monday, May 12, 2008

Monday Morning Musing....

Once again, a weekend has passed and I am preparing for a busy week ahead. At the end of the week, I am attending a conference in Daytona Beach with the International Association of Therapists and Counselors. I will be giving presentations, so I am working out the last minute details of these seminars. There are appointments to keep during the week. Wednesday is my wonderful husband's birthday, so we will be celebrating that! All in all, a busy, productive week. I love those.

I will take a few moments to reflect on my gratitude, as this morning I have so much to be grateful for. Two of my brothers live just outside of Macon, Georgia. This weekend tornadoes swept through that area. Both of my brothers were untouched, their families are safe. Both brothers are involved in the clean up. That truly is a reason for gratitude. My sister in law is in a suburb of Khartoum right now. Over the weekend rebels from Darfur attacked a nearby village. Her friend Tito lives in that village, he was away from home and stayed at a nearby church for safety. Both are safe right now. More gratitude.

Research shows the effects on the brain and immune system from emotional displays like gratitude; kind, affirming words cause chemical changes in the brain that work much like antidepressants (creating a sense of peace and calm). As a positive message travels along a nerve in the brain and reaches the end of the nerve, chemicals are released then picked up by the next nerve allowing the message to continue through out. These chemicals, known as neurotransmitters release the feel good chemicals such as serotonin.

However, the gratitude must be genuine. So, perhaps in a given moment you don't feel gratitude for what is occurring in your life. What then? Perhaps that is a time to take stock of what is good and right in your life. Are you safe in this moment? Do you have your health? Think of one small thing that is right, in this moment and focus on that.

Gratitude is a choice. So is bitterness. Your health and well being depend upon your attitude, your choices. You can remain bitter and allow yourself to become numb, ill or even worse or you can choose in this moment to focus on something, anything to feel gratitude for. Imagine moving through an event and until you reach a place where you say, “ I learned something.” Then imagine as a result the next time adversity hits, you are prepared with knowledge as well as a neurological and physical resilience. Knowing that you will be OK. Then you truly are able to give thanks and be grateful.

11 comments:

Ellie said...

Well spoken (written). You totallyhit the nail on the head with the idea that gratitude, etc., has to be genuine, but I think you can begin the process even if you do not really feel it at first. If you begin to practice it when you need healing (and maybe inclined to bitterness), just the exercise can be transformative.

Glad to hear that your family is okay!

Ellie

Relax Max said...

Taking stock of what is good and right in my life.

I am grateful for my new friend, crazy Debbie. My new Amazon blog buddy.

Am I on the right track? :)

Debbie said...

Max,
for you there is really only one track. If you are focusing on the positives, I am happy (yes we are buddies), you are happy and the world is a better place for all of us!

Debbie said...

ellie,

thank you. As always, it is wonderful hearing from you. Great stuff you posted on Mesmer, my readers should all head over to your blog if they want to learn some valuable history! http://theunwindingpath.com/transhypno/

Grandy said...

This is why I like to read your blog. It makes me better to remember the things I should be grateful. I am starting to see more and more blessings and silver linings, than I had for a long time.

Thanks for that!!

Mary said...

I wish I could see a silver lining, On a scale of 1-10 I feel like a 2...
I try to think of the good things, but the past always takes over...Mary

Debbie said...

mary,

I am sorry you feel that way. I understand you are suffering right now. Contact me off blog and I will attempt to help you with some tools that might help.

wisdomhypnosis@yahoo.com

Rachel said...

I am glad to hear that everyone in your family is ok. Tornadoes are scary beasts. I see that a lot of people got hit hard and I feel for them, and hope that they can find peace and understanding with what mother nature has tossed their way.

I am grateful for my family, I think we all should be. Though sometimes things come between me and my family when you get right down to it, they are always there for me. That always makes me feel safe, happy, and grateful to know that there are people I can always count on, and who can always count on me.

Candy Girl said...

Did you see what that awful Max did to poor Alison over at BritishSpeak?? Can't somebody DO something about him?? Alison is hopping mad, too!!

Debbie said...

Candy,

I will see if I can help reign that little rascal in.

Stan J said...

What a wonderful message. Positive or Negative, your right staying positive makes you and everyone around you feel better. Being bitter and negative is absolutely useless, it only hurts you. Great words. And I am happy your family is OK. By the way what does your sister-in-law do in Darfur? I have worked and lived in Africa myself, and my wife couldn't stand me being there, she was worried all the time.