Monday, March 31, 2008

Monday Morning Musing....

Monday morning arrived fast this morning. I spent the weekend with family, doing chores around the house and having some fun as well. Yesterday I took my youngest son to a concert. I remember why I don't attend them anymore. They are loud, it was outdoors and so very hot and smelly, it was crowded and did I mention that they are loud? Oh well, my son and his buddies had a very good time. I had been given the tickets for free, so I can't complain about the cost. (Except for the hearing aides I'll be needing now.)

There are many things I might have preferred to accomplish besides attend the concert. Nothing was as important as how great it made my son feel though. Feeling great, isn't that what we all want? So, as the adult me sits on a Monday morning thinking about the week to come and all I need to prepare, I begin to feel a fret coming on. Then I remember what it is I do for a living. I help others feel great, gee, wonder if that might work for me too?

So, I begin by asking myself, what do I want to do. Not what do I need to do. Well, writing this blog is something I enjoy, so why don't put that down on my list. I enjoy feeling organized, so why not list the tasks for the week and line them up in order of priorities, that feels better. There was even time to chat with my mother. I am so very grateful to have both of my parents still alive and healthy. It is important to me to take the time to enjoy that. Oops, I almost forgot a very important activity, a few moments of self hypnosis to relax and all of the sudden, I am feeling good.

The mind is programmed to reject anything that is potentially difficult, thus the difference in need and want. When I thought of everything I needed to do in my day/week, it became a rat race. When I stopped, took a breath and applied that knowledge based on Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) I was able to restart my day in a powerful, positive way. I was able to release that old stinking thinking. Do your best to stop, breathe and change the needs to wants whenever you can. It feels amazing!

My son and his buddy posed with a character that shows up to many local events, The Cowbell Kid. To avoid the obvious questions: My son is the one on the right, Cowbell is the one with the blue hair.

Did I mention it was loud?

4 comments:

Rahul P said...

Ohh My Lady, I failed to notice it before, Mrs. Debbie so you're a "Hypnotist of the year". Wonderful, if you don't think I'm making it up I was always fascinated as a child by hypnotists performing on Television & making people do funny things. I think I'll be spending a couple of hours on your official site. Secondly, regarding the video in the previous post, you can as well embed it, just try going to the same address of the video on Youtube and find a code mentioned "embed" in the page. You may directly paste the code in your post while composing the post; that will do the task.

Debbie said...

Thank you Rahul! I tried and it worked. (Embedding the video)

Folks,
You gotta love the young kids these days, they are so helpful!

Rahul,
Hypnosis is a fun and useful tool. Please, enjoy the video and free mp3 on my site. Keep asn eye out for more freebies soon!

Anonymous said...

You are right on target with changing the need to do- to want to do...
I'm going to try to use that with motivating one of my sons... something like, I know you WANT to (be____) and then ask how is is planning to do that.
Thanks

belladona

Cindy said...

Debbie,

Cute story...and nice pic of your son with the Beautiful hair! Thank You for the suggestion on the NLP and wants vs. needs. I am learning to tackle an area that I "want" to do in stages...even if it is only for 10 minutes or for 30minutes...say, like downsizing my desk or closet....and then rotate & come back to it....while visualizing how happy I am going to be when it is completed and organized. While not forgetting to give myself a reward when completed...I am a big believer in rewards and am good at that!